Why are difficult people, difficult?

A new series Vampire: How to deal with difficult people kicks off

In the new series Vampire: How to deal with difficult people, Bro. Jon Escoto, Laguna Feast Builder talks about a not so ordinary topic. A topic which can only be seen on movies or read on books and can be best described as a pigment of our imagination.

Vampires are known to take the life of a person by sucking the blood out of the body.  But in the new series, Bro. Jon talks about a different type of vampire - Difficult people, whether in the office, friends, relationships even in family, vampires are abound but made it clear that the series is not intended to judge someone but rather more of a personal reflection - a self-examination. “Ako ba ay bampira sa ibang tao”

He then gave out the most common types of vampires

Criticizing Vampire –often sees the mistakes that other make. Wala nang nakikitang tama sa isang tao

Controlling Vampire – Bully, confrontational. They use intimidation to get control and get what they want. By pointing to others their fault they establish superiority to others.

Complaining Vampire – everytime you talk to this type of person, all they do is complain and whine. Their definition of life is catastrophe. They like that you pity them.

Clinging Vampire – Emotional co-dependency

Crying Vampire  – Sobrang matampuhin, balat sibuyas.

Con Vampire – Manipulative, once you have liked the person, she or he will control you.

So why are difficult people difficult? As if saying to not look very far to get the answer, Bro. Jon said that we should start looking at the mirrors and ask if we are Vampire ourselves.

So how can we be free?  3 things according to Bro. Jon

Believe – Believe that Gods desire is for you to be free and give life to others.

Be Open – ask other people of what they think about you. Do not be defensive. Listen even if it hurts.

Bless – make a commitment to bless people. Catch people doing the right things.

Bro. Jon assures that God has faith and that He will do whatever it takes to bring out the beauty in us

But forewarned that it will not feel good “He will chisel and smoothen the rough edges”. 

“Di maganda ang pakiramdam habang ginagawa yan, minsan masakit”

Every vampire is a child desperate and hungry for love   “Magpakumbaba, tanggapin ang grasya at tanggapin ang pagibig na nagpapabago sa lahat”

Ending his talk, Bro. Jon said that even if we see ourselves as a vampire with rough edges in our life,

“As far as God is concerned you are a masterpiece and the grace of God will be there for you.”